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Life = Consciousness + Free Time + Action

It seems I spend a lot of time figuring out what Life IS to me. Today I thought of it as a simple equation. It could be looked at as nothing more than…

Life = Consciousness + Free Time + Action

Living Life!A lot of things we do during a typical day, to me, don’t constitute “LIFE”. I don’t think many people would argue that biological living and living LIFE are different things. I don’t think many would argue that someone that spends their life stoned out of their minds, out of consciousness… and reality, is not really living Life. Life is comprised of the three things listed above. If you don’t have one of the pieces, you’re not experiencing “Life”.

Components defined…

Consciousness IS: I’m in control of what my mind is experiencing and I am awake. I can choose to think about anything and to explore it in-depth if I wish. I am not being ‘entertained’ with mind-candy from TV, radio or some other distraction that is pulling my consciousness away from reality.
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Consciousness IS NOT:

  • Sleep.
  • Coma.
  • Drunk state.
  • Drugged state.
  • On television, radio, computer games, mindless internet surfing or driving, reading a fiction book with ‘escape’ as a purpose, or meditating.

Free Time IS: Time that I am working for someone else or for myself. If I am working on a project for myself… if it is fun and I am learning something and it is not just for the purpose of working and making money, then I might call it free time.

Free Time IS NOT:

  • Work time.

Action IS: Doing something proactively. Action is doing something I chose to do and that I’m actively doing. I am in control of my mind, meaning, consciousness must be there. I am doing something for myself or for others. I am producing action as a result of some decision that I’m acting on. I’m not laying on my bed watching Teletubbies, rain fall, or the walls turn colors.

Action, as it relates to Life might be:

  • Talking to a friend. Writing a letter. Typing a story. Making a “To do” list.
  • Looking up something on the internet that you want to know for some reason that will improve your Life.
  • Biking, hiking, eating, or driving to go somewhere for some reason (exploring, or specific purpose).
  • A hobby where you are creating something or actively engaged in something you want to learn about or become better at.

Action IS NOT:

  • Doodling on paper.
  • Random internet surfing with no purpose.
  • Listening to the radio.

With those definitions of the sub-components in place, lets take a look at some of what Life IS and what Life ISN’T.

Life IS NOT:

  • Working for me or for someone else. Working is not Life to me. It’s a necessary distraction from Life in most cases.
  • Time spent drunk, incoherent, otherwise escaping consciousness.
  • Time spent ‘on’ the drug, television. There is far too much stimulation going on, visual, auditory,
    emotional, logical, my mind is not my own when I’m on television. I’m not conscious. I’m in TV consciousness which is not my own. Similarly I lump listening to music, playing games on the computer, and random internet surfing as not being fully conscious.
  • Sleeping. When you’re sleeping, you’re not conscious and not in control of your Life. I don’t count sleeping as free time. I’m not in “action” either.

Life to me IS:

  • Running.
  • Climbing a mountain.
  • Brainstorming ideas.
  • Helping someone out.
  • Barbeque with family & friends.
  • Exploring a new beach, hill, or part of town.
  • Doing something I never did before just for the experience.
  • Creating something: Photography, videography, web site content, book, podcast, or postcards home.
  • Snake hunting.
  • Learning about religions.
  • Questioning everything that exists under the sun (and beyond).
  • Doing something mildly dangerous for the rush.

Those were the things that came to mind…

“What is Life to YOU?”

 

 

Best of Life!

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Don’t You Just Feel Cheap Sometimes?

I don’t really want to advertise ANYTHING on my blog - but, what to do about that?

Here I am blogging like my life depended on it, because it does… and I have to find a way to monetize this silly thing so I can get a few dollars per day (I only need $8 per day to survive here in Thailand believe it or not).

To slap ads on my blog makes me feel like I’m prostituting myself… my thoughts, my style… my person.

I don’t want to blanket this blog with Google ads. Who needs that? You see that on every other site in existence. I make like $2 per day from Google on my other sites. That’s not enough to show Google ads on the masterpieces I create on this site (ha-cough, hack).

I love to write. I love to write about what I want to write about. I don’t want to review someone’s web site in a fake review that is all positive and that they give me $50 or $100 for. What a scam that is. You good people that come to my site see my review, don’t realize it’s a paid ad, and go visit the other site because you didn’t know I was paid good money to write 600 words of positive fluff about it.

I don’t want to have text link ads on my site either. Darren Rowse and others were a bit blown away when their Google PageRank died as a result of selling text links on their site. The whole concept of unannounced ads is wrong, they knew that! Text links that were blind advertisements to other sites that maybe Darren didn’t endorse or fee good about either… I don’t want to help someone else get more links at the expense of my PageRank or my self respect.

How to monetize a blog then?

Write a book maybe…

I was thinking, the only way to really monetize this blog in a way I’d feel good about is to write a book and then put some ads on my sites that advertise only that book. That might work to some small degree, but the book will only appeal to a handful of people.

Unless I write a book about something BIG. The WORLD is big. I could write a book about the WORLD and how screwed up it appears to be in my opinion… And I do have quite an opinion on that…even started multiple books with that focus… but, I don’t really want to write a negative book. I want to write a positive book that uplifts people, gets them revved up about jumping out of bed for some reason. Gets them IN bed for some reason… You know, something positive. Something well defined… concrete, non-ambiguous.

I could do a video book… or a video… or a podcast… or an audio book. Hmmm… I like my voice, it’s nice. I like to listen to it. I wonder if anyone would listen to me talking to myself, telling a story…

I did write a short meditation book that at first I charged something frivolous for, but then decided to give away. You can grab it here…

Short Meditation course >

I asked my girlfriend to write some Thai Cookbooks… she did, and those are doing well! But, what about me?

I wrote a huge biography about my life… the last 41 years of my life… and it’s 127,000 words. And it’s a monster of a bio… incredible stories and experiences in there. And you know what? My brother told me I needed to have a story… some fatal flaw that needed to be resolved as the book went on. I needed to have some problem that gets resolved… I was horrified. I thought bio is bio man, just write what happened to me over the years and put a cover on it - DONE.

No, says he. I defer to he.

Ok - so, that won’t be on the bookshelves anytime soon.

I could revive some of my books from the past that I’ve started and discarded. There have been about 9 of those. Of those, “God is Useless” is my favorite. I have to be in the right mood to write about religious matters though. I’m not in that mood today.

I’m in the mood to write about meditation as I just received a scathing critique of my meditation videos on another site of mine - seemlessness.thaipulse.com where I said that some meditation teachers, monks even, have told me that they believed I experienced levels of “jhana”.

Jhana are like the stepping stones to enlightenment. Levels or steps or something - whatever the Buddhists believe. I just know I had these cool experiences and recently found out they correspond really highly with (almost exactly with) levels of jhana as elucidated by the Buddha so many years ago in some of the Pali Suttas.

Apparently my definition of jhana disagrees with strict Buddhist interpretations and this guy attempted to rip me a new one without even having listened to everything or seen all the videos. He grossly misquoted me and took things out of context… He was just anxious to disprove it was jhana… to him jhana comes only to those that are devout Buddhists. Devout as in having studied for many years and able to quote all the rules of Buddhism… the scriptures and what not.

It’s funny because meditation is a physical act. You sit. You focus the mind on your breath. You watch what happens. It’s not hard to get it ‘right’. Experiences happen naturally - not because you’re Buddhist or Hindu or fat or blue. They just happen. Whether exactly the same experience happened to the Buddha or not - who cares? He was one guy that it happened to (maybe). Why do you need to follow exactly what he did in order for you to have a real experience? Maybe Buddha only reached enlightenment 101. Maybe you’ll reach 207 or 405 or some other pedagogical level.

I know what I should do. I hate shoulding on myself, but…

I am 65,000 words into writing a fiction novel about some Thailand characters. I am headfirst into the height of the drama and it’s exciting and all but I’m just not into finishing that today. ADD/HD is a serious disability man. If you’re not in the mood - you’re just not in the mood. That book might sit unfinished for a year or 10 if my past behavior is to be a predictor of future behavior in this instance.

Anyway… so that’s where I am right now. I’m feeling like a $2 hooker as I look over my AimforAwesome site and realizing that there are too many advertisements that are distracting from my message.

And I’m wondering… what to write.

A book?

Best of Life!

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In the Online World, What Type are YOU?

I’ve recently come up with an idea - a realization that there are levels of people in the world doing what I’m doing. I’ve put together a grossly inadequate framework to throw people into and assign them a level corresponding to what they know in the world of internet ventures. I need this because it helps me focus on my energy on what I can hope to accomplish with people of each level. It helps me put people into a group so I can better communicate with them by interacting with them on whatever level they’re at.

First, let me explain that I have friends that are of all different levels. Friendships are not dependent on, nor are they even related at all to these levels and the importance of having them. I don’t assign friends to levels because there’s no need. I interact with them as a friend, I don’t have any agenda with my friends.

This is in marked contrast to those I’m trying to accomplish something with on a business level. Really, I created these hypothetical levels only for that reason - I want to have a general idea in my mind about how best to go about interacting with people I work with or am thinking about working with for online ventures.

When I’m working with someone on any project I want to answer the questions:

  1. Is the person able to contribute something to the equation? (The equation being success at whatever project we’re working on together.)
  2. Am I able to communicate with the person? If I’m listening hard, am I understanding? Is the person able to explain in different ways so I “get it”? If I explain something 4 ways, does the person “get it”?
  3. Is the person a long-term partner or short-term?
  4. Is the person a details person or a “see the big picture” person? I need to know both of course, but since I’m already a big picture kind of person, I really appreciate meeting the “details people”.
  5. Is the person actively engaged in learning about whatever project we’re considering? Are they revved up about it?
  6. Is the person an ideas person (like me) or a, work on what you give me person? Again, I need both, but since I have more ideas than I know what to do with I like to meet others that have the solid drive to work on the same project day after day.

I’ve described a few types of people that I know and that I typically work with. You can change the levels to apply to any industry and I think they cross-generalize pretty well.


Wiley Coyote Level,
super genius. Appears to communicate well ONLY with other Wiley Coyotes.
Those that have super-interconnectivity between neurons and react with lightening efficiency are qualitatively different than most people in the world. I’ve met exactly 4 of these people in my lifetime, all within the last 5 years. Their thinking speed, and realm of what they’ve thought about are off the scale. They are not ‘people persons’ because they can’t seem to connect with others, even if - on an intellectual level there are others that understand what they’re talking about sometimes - much of the time they’re lost in their own private world of thoughts. They’re testing hypothesis’ in their heads and in their lives. They are relentlessly dedicated to finding out the truths about things they’re interested in. They have trouble translating what they’re thinking into anything the rest of us can understand because quite frankly, their brains are working twice or thrice as fast as the general population. I’ve known 4 of these people, and as I reflect back on each of them this is a fair and accurate description of them.

Wiley Coyotes are those that don’t know HOW to interact with people and they aren’t much interested in figuring it out. They are a cut above the rest of the world in terms of their raw brain power, and maybe part of the WHY that this happened is that they are socially inept and don’t know how to communicate with others well. As a result, they’re in their own heads most times and only attempt to share their ‘outrageously difficult to grasp ideas’ with others when they think it can make a big difference in the world, or their own world.

Wiley Coyotes are usually the creators of extremely successful ventures. They know the big picture. They know how every piece fits into the equation. They know where to source the best people possible to work on the pieces and they know how to secure funding for their ventures. They are typically personally interested more in the growth, business, and financial sides of the online venture. They like to start projects and manage the entire thing as one person, or if there are a couple Wiley Coyotes in a pack that created the venture - they’ll split some duties.

I don’t usually team up with a person of this level, as I have done so in the past with little positive result except I learned a lot. Now, that IS a positive result… but, I found it very difficult to meet my needs that I have as a contributor to projects because the Wiley Coyote has already considered my idea and all the possible scenarios, and probably already tried my idea and found it lacking in some way. They are usually focused on something different than what I’m focused on. And lastly, though I think the person and myself are communicating and that we understand each other - in reality we may be worlds apart in our understanding of each other. So - usually working with this person is a dead end.

However, I surround myself with these types of people every day online as much as I can. How? I subscribe to and read their blogs religiously. They are years ahead of most of the world and I like reading their ideas. They are the impetus for some of my own ideas, or they spawn new ideas as I’m reading their blogs. They are remarkable providers of resources… they seem to know where to go for the best possible tools or resources in whatever area you might have some needs. I read their entire blog and all the comments because I know there are intelligent people from all over the world writing in the comments section of these Wiley Coyotes!

You’ll be approaching the impossible if you are trying to get a Wiley Coyote to help you with some part of your own project. (Hi Cheyenne)


Smiley Coyote,
socially adept super genius.
These are Wiley Coyotes in their inner-mind brilliance and speed and yet they are a little slower on the outside when interacting with other human beings. They are more socially adept and they are able to self-monitor their brilliance and share at a level that’s more in-tune with someone on a different level. They can explain things more easily than Level 1a’s, but still they might have serious communication issues. I worked with one guy in Hawaii (Oahu) that was at this level and I learned quite a bit and was able to contribute to the success of the business at some level. I enjoyed working with this guy as he was brilliant, and yet VERY aware of the way he was coming across while communicating with me or the other staff. He would explain until the other person “got it”.

Level Smiley Coyotes don’t have time to help others either, outside of the current project. You’ll have a tough time getting any time from these folks. I work well with Smiley Coyotes. (Hi Kevin)

G-Men & G-Women.
I consider myself a “G-Man” in the world of online technology and things related to the internet… marketing, sales, ideas, knowledge of tools and resources. I can work at a very high level. I know the terminology. I know how all pieces of the puzzle fit together. I can DO nearly all the pieces that are necessary to get a web site up and running and profitable including almost anything with multimedia, podcasting, video blogging, and such things. If necessary I know how to find very good people to work with. I outsource pieces of the project to those people. If there is programming to do that is always outsourced. I enjoy site design, but my designs are purely built around speed and ease of use. Not much GUI in my designs. The one piece of the puzzle I’m not competent with is the PHP/ASP and database side of programming… I don’t know Java or any code other than HTML and CSS a bit.

Here in Thailand I am alone in what I know, or so it appears. I’ve tried for a year to find others that might be “G-People” or Smiley Coyotes, that I could work with - and I think they are either hiding out and relaxing from the stress and turmoil of a past life in their own country - like I did for a year. Or, they are just not here.

I know that I know a lot. At times when I get cocky and think I am a Smiley Coyote, I just go read some blogs of those that really ARE at that level and I’m truly humbled. I return to the wide-screen notebook to learn more about whatever subject I’ve just been schooled in.

G-men and G-Women are learning all the time and have a really high drive to make something work. They are innovative and they often take time to help others out. (Hi Vern, Steve, Nate, Albert, Darren)

Within each level there are those that communicate with others more easily and those that have more difficulty. I was going to assign subtypes “a” and “b” to clarify the group a little better, but it’s going to get confusing real quick. Best to leave it as it is.


Mom & Pops
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These are folks that know most of the pieces of the puzzle, but that probably couldn’t put together a winning or major successful web site on their own without some big help. They may have been programmers before and have dabbled in building sites. They might be marketing or sales people from the past that have learned how to build web sites. They might have worked in a dot com and seen everything working, but they are still weak as far as knowing the complete equation and how each piece adds to the success of the online venture. These are the wannabe entrepreneurs that the USA is full of at this time.

People of all sorts of backgrounds are realizing that they want to get in on the online action and they are scrambling to make it happen. Some are building eBay stores, Yahoo stores, blogs of all sorts, web sites about making money online, and all sorts of subjects. They see that the future is online - and they want their own future to be online. They see online success as relatively easy and they believe that they can become more successful than by continuing with whatever career they were doing before. Usually Mom & Pops join with other Mom & Pops because there are plenty of them around and because they’re just not savvy enough to know they NEED to know any of the higher levels. The higher levels don’t particularly need the Mom & Pops since they don’t have much to offer.

Some Mom & Pops are going to “make it”. They’re going to succeed beyond their wildest expectations… but most will not. The ones that do succeed are the ones that either spend years trying or those that are able to have close contact - even online, with G-Men, G-Women, or the Smiley Coyote if it was possible to endear one’s self to, and latch on to a Smiley Coyote that will help guide the Mom & Pop. Not help, just guide. The Mom & Pop will have to do LOTS of work to make it work, but it’s possible with help since Mom & Pops don’t have a complete (or solid) plan for success layed out. (Hi Mick, Matt, Richard, Dave)

Cogs. No, wait, Platinum Cogs.
Platinum Cogs are people that I need more than anyone else. I need them because they do one or a few things very competently and are expert at it. They may or may not be much interested in following their own entrepreneurial ideas and they are excited to work on a project that is interesting to them and showcases their talents. They have obvious and sometimes incredibly useful talents that Coyotes and G-People can use to expertly solve some part of the equation. (Hi DaVID, Henrik, Frank)


Twitters.
Twitters are those that might have some technical skill in some area, but primarily they work in an area such as online sales or marketing. They work with their mouths. They initiate, maintain and grow relationships that are essential to the online venture. They are fun, and add spice to the office environment since the rest of us don’t. They are indispensable to any successful online venture. They see a limited part of the big picture and they are happy doing their part to make the web site or other online venture successful. They understand the terminology used in the online marketing industry and they’re very good at doing their jobs.

Ok, that’s all I have… I didn’t go any further than describing just the levels here. I think the other types of person don’t really apply to what I’m doing. I would guess that maybe 50% of everyone working in the online world falls into one of the categories above. With the largest group by far being the Mom & Pops. (That’s a gross estimate and is probably off by a large factor, it’s just a guess really.)


I don’t know if this will help anyone at all, but it helps me clarify in my mind because already I’ve started to assign people into the classes and it will help me focus better.

Best of Life,

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Thailand or Hawaii… Update

So, I’ve been agonizing over the decision about whether to stay in Thailand or go back to Hawaii. In Hawaii I have a great friend from Sweden, Christian who does Hawaii appraisal of residential real estate on Oahu, Maui, Kauai, and Big Island there that is making it very easy for me to come back and live like a leech off his generosity for a few weeks before I can bag a job.

How’s THIS for generosity…

“Vern you can rent a room in my house for $200 per month. I normally rent it out for$700 as it’s a share with another roommate.”

He has the following I can use:

Bodyboard, Mountain bike, Snorkel/mask/fins, Kayak, computer, futon, other stuff in the apartment, camping gear.

He will give me things to do - to fix up - so I don’t have to actually pay cash for rent. I’ll paint things and help him put some tile down and other things.

He may be looking for an apprentice appraiser too. He’d teach me all about appraising homes and for 2 years I’d work with him for little cash. At the end of two years I can go out on my own and get my own license. Not that I’m really looking to be an appraiser, but who knows? He likes the job a LOT.

So here’s an update on the Fate post I wrote the other day…

So far these are the things that I would normally ignore COMPLETELY because they are of the fate/existential realm that I never give any credence to. There have been many things now since I’ve been paying attention and since I decided to keep track of them since I cannot come up with a logical reason to move back to Hawaii or remain in Thailand.

1st: I flipped a coin and told myself I’d go with whatever decision it came up with. Heads was Thailand. Tails was Hawaii. It was heads.

2nd: I flipped the card at the beach - as in that Fate post. I said - red card, I’ll stay in Thailand where my heart is. Black card, go back to Hawaii. The card, on turning it over was white - the dye / ink had disappeared. The card was a 6 of hearts though. Technically red at one point, but no longer.

3rd: Believe it or not, while I was at a cave temple in Krabi, Thailand I looked down at my feet and there was another playing card. I tried again. It came up RED. Hmm.

4th: My brother told me that returning to the United States might be the dumbest thing I ever did.

5th: I’ve had “jhana” come a lot lately - it leaves a feeling as if I am meant to be here in Thailand. It’s such a “right” feeling to be here…

6th: I saw a small black cat walking across a vacant lot the other day. I’m in a 3rd floor room of a hotel in Krabi, Thailand. I was watching it out the window when I said to myself. If you want me to stay here that cat will look at me. It will look not just randomly, but for a substantial amount of time. In about 7 seconds the cat stopped and looked right up at me. I hadn’t moved or spoken. There was no noise from my room or anywhere close. The cat stared for 5 whole seconds or more.

7th: I had a dream that my girlfriend here and I were closing up the front doors of our business (like a store front) and going to sleep for the night. I rarely dream anymore.

So, that’s the tally so far. 7 for stay in Thailand and none for go back to Hawaii.

And yet, I still made a reservation to return to Hawaii. Why? I’m not sure. I believe that I just have zero sense of faith in anything outside myself directing my life. I’ve directed my life for 40 years basically. I got myself into the good, bad and ugly. I can get myself out of it too. I know that I can make it anywhere and that location is not that important… however, the people I’m surrounded with… the culture… will be very different in both places.

Realistically, Hawaii is where I need to be as I need to build on my small successes and keep hitting goals I have in the online - and offline world.

Metaphysically, everything is telling me - Thailand is the place, at least for now.

We’ll see I guess! My flight is to go next week and barring something extreme, I’ll be back in Honolulu running around Magic Island park, bodyboarding at Bellows, The Wall, Makapu’u, and other favorite spots.

Mostly I’ll be missing this incredible girl I’ve met here and spent the last more than 2 years with. She is such a quality person that I cannot believe my good-fortune in finding her. I’ve been married 3 times already at 41 years old! 3!

I’ve thought 5 times that I found the perfect girl for me… I was wrong everytime. This time, I’m not wrong. Sounds funny I know - Vern must have a serious issue about picking girls - and I DO. VERY serious issue. But, you know what? I’ve got the courage to keep trying.

I think it was Rudolph Dreikurs (family psychologist) that was big on encouragement and the courage to keep trying. I have it when it comes to relationships. I’ve definitely got it.

I have not one doubt in my mind that this girl is the jewel of Thailand…

I’ll write more about my friend here in Thailand in later posts.

If you’re tired of trying - you’ve got to try again when you build up the energy… don’t ever stop trying…

Aim for Awesome!

Really, it’s a good mantra…

:P

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If you need property on any of the Hawaiian islands and need an appraisal done, Christian would be happy to do it for you. I highly recommend him as a genuinely good guy.

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