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Thailand Meditation Retreat… Just What You Need

Buddha statue at top of a hill at Suan Mokkh

Buddha statue at top of a hill at Suan Mokkh

Just south of the small town of Chaiya, which lies north of Surat Thani, Thailand is a Buddhist temple known world wide for it’s quality meditation retreats held monthly. Usually well over 100 persons attend each meditation retreat and some attend many of them. Naturally there are more Europeans than Americans there - Americans not taking long vacations like those in Europe and other countries tend to.

If you’re looking to deepen your meditative practice, then attending this 10-day intensive meditation retreat may be just what the doctor didn’t order - but what you need.

When I lived in Surat Thani I traveled by motorbike to Suan Mokkh more than a dozen times. The temple grounds are expansive - covering many acres. I spent many hours practicing walking meditation through the forest at Suan Mokkh and I ventured across the highway and down the country road to the “International Dhamma Hermitage” where the monthly meditation retreats are held on a couple occasions for photos - not to stay.

Recently a friend created an entire site dedicated to the International Dhamma Hermitage experience at Suan Mokkh. There is more information at this one website than any website I’ve ever seen about Suan Mokkh. The information was gathered primarily through his first hand experiences as he’s been there multiple times over the years to attend the retreats.

Video 3: Meditation, Two Types

In this video podcast or video blog (vlog)I I talk about what I see as the two major types of meditation. There are meditation systems which encompasses a very large, rule-filled system for meditation and there is simple meditation that is almost a pure physical effort without any of the fluff.

Video 3, Meditation: Two Types >

This is a .wmv file and plays with Windows Media Player. The file is about 41MB in size and runs for 37 minutes. This is the largest video - and they likely won’t be this large again. I wish someone could invent the magic video compression codec that gives me 30 minutes at just 1MB.

If you want your audio to sound better, try to copy the settings (in general) from the equalizer image below for Windows Media Player. Vern sounds best at these settings or raising the left side up just a little overall.

Equalizer settings for video with speech.

Here is a short video about the temple I filmed the video above at. It’s called, “Wat Tum Sang Phet” and is located in Krabi, Thailand. They are developing it to include a road around the limestone karst lined with fruit trees and vegetables. They’ll likely have cave tours. It’s a really quiet Buddhist temple and the abbot there is very kind - always inviting me in for tea and fruit when he sees me.

Wat Tum Sang Phet, Krabi, Thailand >

This video is 9MB and about 8:40 in length.

Enjoy!

Best of Life!

Vern

Cave at Wat Tum Sang Phet

A cave at the Buddhist temple “Wat Tum Sang Phet”

31 Sleeping Lifehacks for Helping you Sleep, Minus the Sheep

Women sleeping at Dhamma talk in ThailandI wrote another sleeping lifehack post not long ago and it’s had over 12,000 reads so far. That’s amazing to me as I created that blog post article on a spur of the moment idea one night when I realized that by having my head covered with my arms or hands I seemed to be more relaxed and I fell asleep even more quickly than I usually did.
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To expand on that I’ve listed 30 more ways to help you get to sleep. I take my sleep seriously. You should too. If you’re not getting enough sleep then you CAN change something and reach the point where sleep comes more quickly. You might be stressed out from life, but one or a combination of these lifehacks about sleeping should work for you!


31 Sleeping Lifehacks that Work:

1. Your bed is for two things. Sleep and sex. If you read in your bed, eat crackers in your bed, program on your notebook in your bed then your bed is no longer a special place. It needs to be special. It needs to trigger your brain for sleep. It needs to mean sleep so when you see it, if you’re not feeling randy you think, ’sleep’.

2. Make sure your room is cool enough to sleep. If it’s not cool enough, shoot a fan onto your legs, in your face, wherever you need it. Fans are cheap and efficient. My g/f cannot sleep in the warm weather without a fan BLOWING directly at her face - preferably on high speed from about 1 meter away. I can’t possibly sleep like that so we with my feet at her face and hers at my chest. Works for us.

3. Music on low volume is OK, if the music either - doesn’t have words - is entirely instrumental, or, consists of a sleepy girl’s voice like Sade. I can sleep to Sade’s “Love Deluxe” CD in about 4 minutes. If you don’t have it - get it and I think you’ll see what I mean.

4. Television on low volume works for some people. Not me. The problem is that you wake up at 3 am with the loud static that makes you feel like you’re in a horror-flick.

5. Fake meditation. Meditation books will tell you, “Don’t’ meditate while lying down.” There’s a good reason for that. You get too relaxed and your mind starts to get dizzy… unfocused and before you know it, you’ve slept yourself right through your meditation. Now, for you if you didn’t care about meditation - this would be a good thing. Success!

Read a free e-book (PDF format) about how to meditate by focusing on your breath here>

Try it in bed on your back and see what happens.

6. Progressively relax all the muscles in your body. You can do this one of two ways. You can simply focus on the areas of your body from the head to the toes in succession or the other way - up to you. Try both… Look at your head, the muscles in your face, your nose, your ears, your throat… feel them relax… you know the drill. We’ve all heard audio suggestions like this on mp3 or god forbid if you were alive during tape recorder use you heard a tape of it. Don’t tell anyone if you heard an 8-track of it.
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7. The other way to progressively relax all the muscles in your body is not just to focus on them, but to tense them first. Contract the muscles you’re focusing on and hold it for a couple seconds. Do this with each group of muscles as you focus on them. Then when you let go of the contraction you really can sense the relaxation because it’s so opposite of the tenseness. Do this with every group of muscles in your body… head, face, neck, traps, shoulders, biceps, triceps, forearms, wrist, hands, fingers, chest, etc. Don’t miss anything.

8. Enlist the help of your friend for one of the following…

  • To clean your fingernails and toenails as you lay in bed, ready to sleep. I’ve never fallen asleep faster in my life than when my girlfriend did this recently. She started on my toes. By the time she got to third toe of the first foot I didn’t get to enjoy the rest of it - because I was asleep quick!
  • Rub your feet gently.
  • Rub your hands gently.
  • Trace a line with one finger on your feet, hands, across your whole body, or back.
  • Tell you a bedtime story.

9. Remember there are only 2 positions to sleep correctly: On your back or on your side. Don’t sleep on your stomach as your neck has no alternative but to twist oddly. You know what pulling a neck muscle is like, don’t you?

10. Try the winiiiiiiiiine! (Quote from famous Stanley Kubrick movie, ‘A Clockwork Orange‘. Wine or beer, anything with that magic ingredient will relax you. That’s why they tell you, don’t drink alcohol with your sleeping pills. They do the same thing. If I’m anxious about something I have a glass of wine or a beer and I’m out cold in 15 minutes.

11. If laying on your back, straight out like a corpse you might find that you have some weird feeling in the area between your butt and your middle back. This is your lower back. It might not feel relaxed. There’s a reason for that. It isn’t. You might feel better if you put a pillow under your knees. This will lift your legs and allow your lower back to contact the bed where it should be, not up like a suspension bridge or an 11 year old’s back bend in gymnastics’ class.

12. If you still don’t feel right, try crossing your legs Indian-style on top of the pillow, still laying on your back. This works for me really well. I think too much meditation in the past made my legs pliable enough to do this and now it feels more comfortable to sleep like this than with legs straight.

13. Assume the fetal position. What do fetuses do best? Sleep. They sleep a good part of the 2time they’re in there. Make yourself fetus-like and curl up on your side. Suck your thumb if you want. Nobody is watching.

14. When choosing to lay on your side and sleep your pillow must help you sleep, not hinder it. You need a pillow when you sleep on your side. Or else something that will keep your spine in a straight line. If you sleep without a pillow your spine curves at the neck because the width of half of your cranium does NOT equal the width of your spine to the end of your shoulder. See the disparity? You need something under your head to pick it up and
line up the vertebrae so your spine stays in a straight line
horizontally.

15. Sleep horizontally. What I mean is… your bed, the floor, a lounge chair, whatever it is - really should be horizontal. It shouldn’t be angled, tilted to one side, or so soft that the heaviest part of you (your butt) sinks into the surface and collects all the blood for the next 8 hours. Sleep horizontally.

16. Take the major step of improving your sleep patterns by moving your bed into another room - maybe create a tv room or a sex room and buy a firm foam pad two or three inches thick to sleep on in place of your bed. I’ve slept this way for the better part of two years now and my back pain has decreased considerably. I don’t have any problem sleeping either. There is about a 10 day or so adjustment period when you’ll curse me profusely… but, when that’s over you’ll send me internet flowers or something warm and fuzzy.

17. Drink warm milk. For some reason it works. Look at breastfeeding babies. Half the time they fall asleep AT the source. While your milk might not be 98.6 it is better warm and it has a relaxing effect due to the tryptophan, an amino acid that acts as a sedative.

18. Go to sleep at about the same time everyday. If sleep is part of the schedule then the brain is wired for that at a certain time. If you have an unsteady schedule you’re more likely to suffer periods of insomnia.

19. Exercise to the point of exhaustion right before you eat dinner. By the time you eat dinner and the blood goes from your muscles to your stomach to help in digestion your mind doesn’t get the blood it needs to stay awake. You naturally get sleepy. Of course you’ll need to time when you exercise and eat dinner so you’re not falling asleep at 6:30 pm. Exercise at 6, eat at 8, sleep by 9? Sure you’re eating a late dinner and you’ve heard that’s not such a cool thing to do - but the people that said that are sleeping everyday. You’re not. You want to sleep, don’t you?

20. Cover your eyes with some satin undies. Or whatever you choose, it’s just that satin is nice and cool and very lightweight you won’t even know it’s there. I use a t-shirt. Don’t bother with the Bluebeard eye patches and other gimmicks. You don’t need to buy them when a sock will do just as well. Better even. Eye patches invariably have a rubber band or elastic that squeezes your head either too tightly or too loosely.

21. Ear plugs. I’ve not found any that fit my ears correctly. Here in Thailand there is a one size fit all and they leave 1/4 inch of rubber plug sticking out the side of my ears like a Herman Munster type deal. Sleeping on the side with those things is impossible. Great for back sleepers.

22. Put your arms, hands, fingers over your head and face as you sleep.

See my other sleeping lifehack here >

23. Turn your bedroom into a cave. When you shut the lights out your bedroom should be as black as a cave. No light means your eyes can’t focus on anything if you’re laying in bed wide-eyed. Cave men had the right idea. Sleep was important to them as they were outrunning mammoths and saber-tooth tigers, they needed to conserve energy. What worked for them can work for you!

24. Trick yourself into falling asleep. Reading a book that you really want to finish is a sure-fire way to fall right asleep. Telling yourself that cannot sleep is another great way. For some reason, when you’re in a car speeding down the highway at 70 mph and you’re doing a 300 mile trip in the middle of the night because it’s much smarter - there’s no traffic to worry about. During the trip you’re telling yourself that you CAN’T fall asleep… invariably your eyes close and you’re sleeping for a second at a time before your unconscious wakes you up and shocks the hell out of you. For some reason if you tell the mind - NO, then it does it. It’s like the mind is always rebelling against what we tell it.

25. I’ll never forget a trip from Washington DC to Pittsburgh at 2 am when my friend, Mark, with sleep apnea no less, reassured me 40 or more times that he was fine to drive. I told myself, ‘Don’t fall asleep because if Mark does fall asleep you’ll need to grab the wheel.’ Sure enough I fell asleep. God it’s just heavenly to be sleeping in the car while someone else is driving… Anyway, I woke up to the sound of Mark snoring extremely loudly and the car flying down the road at 80 mph. Not one of life’s AWESOME moments I’ll tell you.

If you’re in Korea or have access to it, drink “SoJu”. It’s a rice wine that has formaldehyde in it (had in 1986 at least) and not only will you sleep, but you’ll forget what you did the night before. You could also dose yourself on roofies if you’re seeking that particular effect.

26. Intentionally try to stay up all night long every night for a week. See. You sleep. Again, works on that same principle of telling the mind what you want to do - stay awake. It does the opposite, puts you to sleep. Strange mind we have!

27. Don’t take a hot bath or shower at night, or do some physical activity right before bed since your body needs to lower it’s temperature as it sleeps. An elevated temperature will keep you up longer without sleeping.

28. Get yourself some of that white noise. Like white milk and white satin panties white noise can mask the sounds that annoy you and that inhibit your sleep. For me a fan running close to me works, as long as it isn’t pointing at me. You could buy a CD with an hour of babbling brook, ocean waves, waterfall, rainfall or wind through the trees and that might work for you.

29. Have a power-down routine before you climb into bed. Anxiety about your living space, kids, what you’re going to face tomorrow… and so many other things can add up to anxiety before you hit the bed. Go through a power-down routine where you walk around the house, shutting up the blinds, checking windows and door locks, starting the air in the kids rooms, or whatever you need to do. Write a short list of what you’ll need to get done the following day and have a glass of warm milk. Cool your room down to just above freezing and gently slide into the covers. Go through the muscle relaxation progressive exercise and feel consciousness slipping away…

30. An hour before you sleep do some yoga, meditation or stretching exercises to wind yourself down physically.

If nothing else works, resort to the old standby…

31. Just eat a potato! Some researchers are saying that potatoes have a relaxing effect when eaten before you sleep. Who would have ever thought it was that easy?

Anybody have any more? I tried not to rehash the 50 other things most lists have about how to fall asleep but some of them worked for me in the past so I did mention some of the obvious ones.

Best of Life!

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Sleeping Life Tip: Falling Asleep Easier (Weird but Works!)

Sleeping lifehack, position 1I thought for sure someone would have this sleeping lifehack (tip) online, but when I Googled it all I can find are things like, Tornado Safety tips.

So, feel free to use this lifehack for both applications.
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I have a ‘Sleeping Lifehack’ that helps you sleep better. At least it helps me, and I have a theory about why it works that is entirely unproven and untrue, but I want to run it by you anyway and see what you think.

Sleeping lifehack, position 2If you have trouble sleeping try this:

Cover your face, head, and neck with your arms and hands in any configuration you find remotely comfortable.

Sleeping lifehack, position 3

That’s it.

Here are some photos of my favorite positions, feel free to experiment to find your optimum state.

At times I am squeezing my face with my open hand - and believe it or not, that feels great. Other times my heavy forearm is laying across the bridge of my nose - but for some reason, the pressure feels good - not uncomfortable.

Sleeping lifehack, position 4I realized that I’ve been doing this a lot since I came to Thailand. I’m not sure why that is… I think it has something to do with having lights or noise going on always while I’m trying to go to sleep. I’m not exaggerating. Thai people may be very quiet, demure and sweet in your country… they are in the USA too. But, when you’re here in their country it’s like a musical and noise war-zone. Thai people are excessively loud, and they tolerate any level of loudness from each other with their “mai pen rai” attitude, which - when translated sort of means - ‘nevermind’ or ‘let it go’ or ‘no matter’ or ‘no worries’ or something like that. I’ve never seen a Thai complain on a bus or van while traveling when the driver or assistant starts blaring some music or slapstick comedy show on the DVD player that is enough to shake your skull. I’ve complained, but never once seen a Thai complain.
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Anyway, this isn’t a rant on how loud Thailand is - since I’ve acclimated to most of the environmental changes for the most part.

I have never slept with my hands or arms on my face before. Never. My hands have been under my head before, like a little kid goes to sleep, hands folded in a prayer type fold and my head rested on my hands. But putting hands and arms on top of my face and head is a new move. I’m adventuring in new territory.

And, quite frankly my Aimers, it’s working for me.

Sleeping lifehack, position 5So… on to my theory about why human beings naturally are able to sleep better by using arms and hands to cover their faces. It goes along with the Tornado Safety idea… When we are in danger we cover our heads. We protect our heads because the grey matter that’s inside, though it appears as amorphous jelly is amorphous jelly that directs every single thing we do. It’s like a bee-hive’s ‘Royal Jelly’ x 25. It’s very important.

I have this idea that when the body goes to sleep the mind knows that it is going to become very vulnerable to whatever happens during the night that can harm it. The mind can get to sleep anyway, and does most times but this lifehack is for those that have trouble sleeping. Even though I have noise and light in my face when I go to sleep I am still able to get to sleep if I don’t put my arms and hands over my head and face. But, if I DO cover my head and face up with my arms - I feel more secure or safe or something. And as a result, I fall asleep very quickly.

By putting your hands and arms over your head and face you’re giving your brain a nice cool comfy feeling that he thanks you for by letting consciousness slip away faster.

Sleeping lifehack, position 6

Really, TRY IT!

I’ll bet it works for you too!

Best of Life!

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Don’t miss my latest sleeping lifehack… 31 Tips for Getting some Sleep minus the Sheep!

If you want to read another article about falling asleep more easily by waking up early - read Lawrence’s article at 5 Reasons you should be an early riser >

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